Ready or not?

After you break up with someone 4 things happen:

1.  Everyone wants to know the dirt.
2.  Everyone has advice on how to live your life now
3.  Everyone tells you how 'they had a feeling it wasn't right/ going to work out', etc.
4.  Everyone has someone they want to set you up with.

In my experience anyways.  All of this--except for number 1, is usually meant to help you as a friend, move on, get your mind off of things or make you feel better.
One thing however, that a friend said to me over a month ago was that 'it is really important for me to take this time, alone.  Set goals for yourself, some short term goals and accomplish them.  You are going to need months alone'.
Now, I have never had a problem being single or alone really.  I mean, everyone gets lonely sometimes, or has a moment every now and again when you are single that you want someone by your side.  For various reasons: boredom, loneliness, parities where you are the only single person, a good movie on the couch, a night out, someone who just gets you, or you are just plain horny (sorry, but you know it's true).
But, all in all through my adult life while I have had serious relationships I have spent a good amount of time single and embraced it.
I've lived alone before.  I've lived with roommates.  I've vacationed with friends.  I have by all accounts been a successfully single person.
So, what exactly makes me ready to move on I wonder?  What goals to I need to set?
If I train for and run a 5K am I ready for a new relationship?
If I bill 2 million dollars a month at work (wow...that would be nice..) would I be ready?
If I successfully master making creme brulee while hula hooping to 'Shoop'...am I ready then?

I set goals all the time.  I was never in my relationship and was suddenly lost and goal-less with no sense of self.  One might argue 'OK smart-ass, you called off your wedding...clearly you need to figure out your brain'..
But, that's the thing.  I did that when I figured out my brain.  The tough part now is getting used to my life without the great partner that I had, and moving and all that comes with that.  But, the hardest part is over now.
So, if something feels right, or good do I not go for it because I haven't checked off an imaginary 'to do list' that I would do coupled or single?  Maybe?
My friend would say I need time for me to figure out what I really want in life. I'm not saying my friend is wrong, or saying something that is bad advise what I AM saying is I'm 30.  I'm not old, but I'm not 22 either.  I have dated.  A lot.  I know what works for me and what doesn't..
So my question is what is the magic amount of time--and how do you know when your ready?
Loaded question.  Isn't it?

By the way.  I have 29 followers.... Who is my number 30?  I'm 30...so there should be 30 (more really) and y'all need to be commenting on my blog page--not my facebook link.  If for no other reason than I can open up blogger and feel excited and surprised that someone read it! Yeah.  I said y'all.  I feel like southern women get shit done. I know you are out there because some of you are 'closet' readers.  I see from facebook that my gay friends are announcing it is 'Pride Week'.  So, why not show some pride here too!  Come out of the 'definitely decaf' closet and be a follower! (You don't have to be gay-I'm not gay either.)  And, if you are gay- well, you can start following me next week, because let's face it--you are all too drunk right now to figure it out :-)